I didn’t really share my husband’s faults in my book. I mostly shared my weaknesses and our weaknesses as a couple. Those who have read my book often comment how wonderful my husband sounds and what a crazy wife I was. So I thought I would share one of my husband’s weaknesses. This is not to dishonor him or point out his flaws to make me look better. It's just to encourage others that no one is perfect. We all have weaknesses, no matter how good we are.
My husband is a great husband and father. However, he frequently points out my faults. I admit I used to be a very difficult wife. But God has changed me tremendously through the years. I can honestly say that I get up each day striving to be the wife, mother, and woman God created me to be. I don’t ever purposely try to do wrong as I did in the past.
My husband gets annoyed with the little things that I do or don’t do. For example, it drives my husband crazy when he can’t reach me when he’s at work. Our home phone is connected to our computer. If one of our kids knocks against the computer, the phone disconnects. My cell phone isn’t that loud and I usually can’t hear it over all the noise, especially if it’s not on the same level I am on. My husband told me recently that he wanted me to carry my cell phone with me wherever I went. As a mother of four children it isn’t easy to lug around a cell phone to every room I am in. So I've been forgetting to carry it with me.
I was outside today for three hours doing yard work with my kids. And, of course, I forgot to bring my phone outside. After trying to get ahold of me for three hours, my husband left work to see if we were okay. When he got home and saw we were fine, he snapped at me.
I walked away and let him calm down before I talked to him about it. I told him I didn’t purposely leave the phone inside the house. I didn’t purposely try to make him worry about us. It was an honest mistake.
I think this is where a lot of couples struggle in their marriages. They expect something from their spouses, but instead of encouraging them; they demand change. Then, they get mad when they don’t see immediate results.
It may take a few times for me to start remembering to take the phone with me. Yelling at me when I mess up isn’t going to help me remember. It will only discourage me.
When my husband continually points something out to me, I feel pressured to change. If I try to please him and try to change myself, it only leaves me frustrated and pulls me away from him.
My husband knows this. And I know he’s trying to change as well. So I have learned to react calmly when he gets on me about my faults. I try to not take it to heart. I try to remember that God is the One I have to please. If I am pleasing God and trying my best, He will set my husband straight when he’s treating me wrong.
It’s okay to point out each others' weaknesses. We shouldn’t close our eyes to our spouses’ faults. But we can approach our spouses in a loving manner, and pray for God to help them change. Then, we should leave it in God’s hands instead of continually getting mad every time they fall.
God doesn't get mad at us when we fall. He lifts us up and encourages us to continue trying. We need to treat our spouses the same.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
—1 Thessalonians 5:11
*NOTE: My husband gave me permission to share this message:)
My husband is a great husband and father. However, he frequently points out my faults. I admit I used to be a very difficult wife. But God has changed me tremendously through the years. I can honestly say that I get up each day striving to be the wife, mother, and woman God created me to be. I don’t ever purposely try to do wrong as I did in the past.
My husband gets annoyed with the little things that I do or don’t do. For example, it drives my husband crazy when he can’t reach me when he’s at work. Our home phone is connected to our computer. If one of our kids knocks against the computer, the phone disconnects. My cell phone isn’t that loud and I usually can’t hear it over all the noise, especially if it’s not on the same level I am on. My husband told me recently that he wanted me to carry my cell phone with me wherever I went. As a mother of four children it isn’t easy to lug around a cell phone to every room I am in. So I've been forgetting to carry it with me.
I was outside today for three hours doing yard work with my kids. And, of course, I forgot to bring my phone outside. After trying to get ahold of me for three hours, my husband left work to see if we were okay. When he got home and saw we were fine, he snapped at me.
I walked away and let him calm down before I talked to him about it. I told him I didn’t purposely leave the phone inside the house. I didn’t purposely try to make him worry about us. It was an honest mistake.
I think this is where a lot of couples struggle in their marriages. They expect something from their spouses, but instead of encouraging them; they demand change. Then, they get mad when they don’t see immediate results.
It may take a few times for me to start remembering to take the phone with me. Yelling at me when I mess up isn’t going to help me remember. It will only discourage me.
When my husband continually points something out to me, I feel pressured to change. If I try to please him and try to change myself, it only leaves me frustrated and pulls me away from him.
My husband knows this. And I know he’s trying to change as well. So I have learned to react calmly when he gets on me about my faults. I try to not take it to heart. I try to remember that God is the One I have to please. If I am pleasing God and trying my best, He will set my husband straight when he’s treating me wrong.
It’s okay to point out each others' weaknesses. We shouldn’t close our eyes to our spouses’ faults. But we can approach our spouses in a loving manner, and pray for God to help them change. Then, we should leave it in God’s hands instead of continually getting mad every time they fall.
God doesn't get mad at us when we fall. He lifts us up and encourages us to continue trying. We need to treat our spouses the same.
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
—1 Thessalonians 5:11
*NOTE: My husband gave me permission to share this message:)
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